Looking for a mistress?

The first rule is, mistresses and dominatrices don’t just grow on trees, you have to make yourself an attractive option.
Whether you want to be a submissive as part of a relationship, or you’re just seeking relief, it’s important to understand that ‘I’ll do anything you want’ is something we hear everyday, especially from men.

First of all, decide on what it is you’re looking for. If you want something based around your needs, your desires and your schedule, then I’d recommend putting your money where your libido is and paying for a dominatrix.
As a mistress, I expect to be in command all the time. I expect you to be at my beck and call, it certainly won’t work the other way round.

So, I’ve put together a handy guide on how you can approach a prospective dominant without coming across as a complete dick.
‘Hello, mistress’ is not an opening line My Fetlife account, and even some of my dating apps, have a tonne of one-line messages like this. I’m not your mistress, and neither do I want to be when you’ve started with the BDSM equivalent of ‘hey, babe’. Don’t top from the bottom
Don’t start with a list of stuff you want to try. While that might come in handy later down the line, I’m more interested in hearing about you as a human.
Also, if you’re only going to be available for the things you want to do, on the days you want to do it, this isn’t going to work. Don’t just list all the things you want to do .

Be more than just a submissive or slave.

Unfortunately, too many submissive men think just by saying they’ll do what I want, I’ll want them to do it. However, my joy comes from being in control of another human who has made themselves an attractive prospect, not a doormat.
We’re picky bitches, and we want to see you have a interesting life outside of kink.

Don’t be ‘shy’ As soon as someone starts saying ‘I’d love to do more, but I’m shy’ I switch off. Nope, not for me. I want someone who has the confidence, passion and desire to really start experimenting. I’m sorry you’re shy, but no one bursts into their first BDSM munch or meet-up like Lord Flashheart. We all started somewhere, so you can too.

Get out Local munches and meet-ups are a great way to get out and prove you’re willing in person.  Frankly, our default status is to suspect any submissive bloke is just looking to wank off online, so being willing to attend events is a great way to start. Stop watching free fem-dom porn That’s not us, that’s not what we do, that’s never going to happen.
Several dominatrices will offer a bespoke video if you’re that keen, but the trash thrown up on free porn sites is literally just there to keep you clicking. The fantasy you see in a five minute clip will never reflect what it’s really like to serve someone, so stop trying to compare.

 We’re human, we’re vulnerable and we’re more than just a kink.

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Is Cyber BDSM safe?

The question of the reality of BDSM cyber interactions is one that is guaranteed to bring up an emotional disagreement at any time. There are two schools of thought that argue this point the most. First you have those who believe in the reality of cyber interactions, and second you have those who do not believe in them at all, insisting they are nothing but fantasy. There is a third group, these are the people that tend to straddle the fence and believe that cyber can be real but it doesn't hold a candle to real life in any way shape or form. Whether or not one sees a cyber interaction as real seems to depend upon the person's view of cyber. If a person views cyber as just another reality, then their interactions will indeed be very real to them. If a person views cyber as nothing but a fantasy play land, then their interactions will not be real to them at all. A cyber relationship, in my experience, can indeed be very real. I base this on personal experience as well as knowledge of the human mind. The mind is the most influential part of a person. As well, it is the largest sexual organ any single human being can have. Cyber interactions deal directly with the mind. There are no visual inputs that can distract from the information being received by the mind. They require a greater ability to put feelings and thoughts into words. Because of this, one can create a mental and emotional bond much faster online. Further, cyber offers a sense of anonymity that allows people to open up faster and deeper than they would in a face to face conversation. This enhances the feeling of emotional closeness to the person you are interacting with and strengthens the mental bond. This bond, is very real to the one who feels it. The emotional responses of arguments, disagreements and such are the same for online relationships as those in reality. In some cases, the response can be more intense due to the fact that cyber interactions deal directly with the mind and heart. Words are one of the most powerful influences in a person's life. Cyber is a world created through words. Because of the power of words, cyber can be very much real. For example, if someone tells you "You look nice today" it makes you feel good. If someone says that online, it makes you feel good too. Cyber, however, contains quite a bit of fantasy. It is easy to get lost in the fantasy part of it. As well, it is dangerous to believe that everything that happens during kinky cyber sex or scenes, are an exact replica of what would happen in real life. Just because you kneel in cyber, does not mean you can do it in reality. Or just because you can type that you flogged someone, doesn't mean you have the experience or knowledge to actually do so in real life. It is important to keep the fantasy part of cyber interactions seperated from the reality part. There are many ways you can do that over the internet, some might be safer than others, but all in all you need to keep it safe , sane and consensual. As always. Source

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Real Life play is wonderful. It's exhilarating, it's fun and it can be intensely erotic. And some people are lucky enough to be able to play whenever they want. Usually though, there are limitations - time, distance, other obligations - which mean we can't just whip up a scene whenever we feel like it. It's a big, wide world out there, and sometimes its hundreds - or even thousands - of miles that separate us from our play partner. However, RL isn't the only way to explore and experience BDSM.

It is often said, that our most developed sexual organ is our brain - and that's were cyber-BDSM comes in. Of course, everyone's heard of cybersex. There are a plethora of online chat rooms where you can go to have one-night cyber-stands, and talk to people you don't know in third person all pretending you're getting down to hot and kinky sex - this article isn't about them. Rather, I want to look at how technology can work in and enhance a BDSM relationship.

One of the most difficult things about cyber play is that the only toy you have is your imagination. It's also one of the most exciting. This can be that grey area where fantasy and reality meet, where you can try out new things safe in the knowledge that the worst thing that will happen is the connection dropping. It can give you the confidence to explore that thing you've been thinking about for a while, but are too embarrassed / nervous / unsure whether you'll like it to bring it up face to face.

For the idle amongst you, cyber has the advantage of taking very little physical effort. No squeezing oneself into a 22" corset, or ending up with a pulled muscle from too much flogging.

You don't have to spend two hours getting ready to indulge in an online scene, and there's no worry of getting pulled over by the police whilst you’re driving to the venue dressed in a rubber cat suit with a bag full of floggers. Cyber is fun, safe and sexy. And you can enjoy it from the comfort of your computer chair.

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Before you visit Mistress Monica:

Open your mind .. empty your thoughts and say this outloud : My kink drawer will be open, I will enjoy my spankings and look forward to obeying every command Miss Monica gives me, shamelessly!

Schedule:
I am on almost daily .. I am sometimes available for appointments so you may email me via CC mail and request for an appointment if I am free !

Turn-Ons:
I am happy to consider both novice and experienced trainees and will look forward to receiving your humble application to worship at the temple of My sex. You will exist solely for, and your goal will be, My own personal pleasure and satisfaction!

Turn-Offs:
Disobedient slaves .

What you can expect from my show:
If you would like to experience the honour of serving beneath Me then you may apply to serve Me . However, you should be aware that I accept only the very highest standards of devotion and obedience and should you fail to please Me in any way, you will of course expect to receive suitable punishment (within pre-set limits).

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I am your deepest desire, your secret fantasy, and of course your wildest dreams come true. I am your mistress, and I will take pleasure in you giving me everything I want. Of course with your money, and your gifts. You will confess to me, how much you need my discipline and guidance. Admit how much I understand your desires, because of course I do. I know you want to please me, and agree to embrace my every wish. You know it’s your destiny, don’t you? You can’t resist Me. Only very special slaves get my attention, and of course you do want to be special to me, don’t you. I believe the greatest gift a woman can possess is beauty. You will worship my beauty and give me everything I desire.
You will serve me with each and every breath that you take. You will worship me and me alone. I will become the only reason for your being. Your true reason for being. No longer will you be alone or on your own, you will live for me, I will become your true and one and only obsession.

Money and power go hand in hand. One cannot exist without the other. Money can be an incredibly powerful sexual aphrodisiac. Giving, and taking, money can become an intense sexual fetish. Almost all money slaves experience an incomparable sexual gratification, and a vast emotional satisfaction, from the act of giving.

Financial domination gives a fulfilment seldom found in other fetishes – Fulfilment to a submissive' need to live for a dea or deus greater than themselves, to give all their best of themselves to that goddess. I am the one you have been searching for, all this time.
You are here because you have an insatiable urge, in some ways a sexual drive, to fulfil a need. The reason, and I am your reason you are here is beyond your control, you cannot resist me. My beauty commands your attention. My presence demands your obedience. You are merely a marionette – I pull your strings and you dance as I please on the stage of my Life.
Face it. Admit it. Even as you take in my words, your anticipation rises, your excitement builds, your need to please this goddess rises to an almost unbearable level.

You want to be mine; you need to give to me. To serve this goddess with your very being is your destiny. Feel your heartbeat rise, notice your breath become quicker, watch your desire build to an obsessive need, revel in the excitement. Then, when you can stand the rising tension no longer, beg to be allowed to pay me homage with a tribute or gift.

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I am mistress Sandra. Enticing, beautiful, powerful and strict. The gorgeous curves that lead down from my round hips, to long sinewy legs and my pretty arched feet could be a version of heaven.The `WHERE YOU BELONG TO` heaven...

Absolute amateurs are encouraged to come forward and delve into their dark desires, I will be more than happy to take you by the hand (or leash) and guide you through the dark passages of your own mind.

Well trained, or experienced slaves are always welcomed as are those with strange and unusual Fetishes.

I relish in pushing the limits and boundaries of you loyal and experienced playthings, while perhaps introducing a few seductive games of my own.


Mutual respect is vital, just as I anticipate the utmost respect from my subjects, Miss will always respect your limits and accept reasonable requests - providing you ask politely of course!

Everyone has different limits and boundaries, so mutual respect in an integral rule in my gameplay.

Being a dominant, yet sensuous nature, I take delight in seducing and teasing you to the point when you lose control, when the surprising combination between demanding and caring catches you off guard. It's when you realize how weak you’ve become, that limits start to melt, being helpless is a sweet treat and, in the end, there is nothing you wouldn’t do for MY PLEASURE!

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If you’re trying to learn how to be a slave, you might want to know more before you get started. With online BDSM slave training, you can find out more about yourself, your desires/fantasies, and what a slave should do for their Dominant. This sort of training can help you to develop the kind of mindset where you can completely please your partner.

Far too many submissives jump into serving the first that comes along. While I can understand the desire to do so this is a very dangerous thing to do. It is very important to be patient as a new submissive just starting out. If you leap before you are ready many terrible things can happen.


Entering into a relationship with an individual who is not competent or responsible enough to be a Dominant. Past horror stories have included practicing new submissive techniques on the submissive with horrific consequences (most techniques should be practiced on a pillow or towel first), a Dom/me pushing the submissive past their limits, ignoring safewords, not checking in during an intense scene, zero aftercare and no debriefing time. Worst of course is the mentally unstable abuser who is pretending to be a Dominant but as no true desire to take care of and/or protect their submissive.


If you don’t truly understand yourself and your desire you can never know what it is that you want and should ask for. More importantly you can never know what to avoid like the plague to ensure you don’t do something that you will later reject.

While many people will argue that you can never know if you like something until you try, I beg to differ. It’s true somethings may need a try before you can truly determine if you like them or not. For example if you like being spanked by a hand, then perhaps you may like being spanked with a paddle. Under a safe environment this might be something that in the future you might want to try to determine if you like it or not.

However, if you know yourself and you know you hate the sight of blood, then you know to stay away from needle play, cutting and all activities that cause blood to be drawn. If you are claustrophobic, then you need to stay away from restrictive hoods, mummification and caging/confinement scenes. You don’t need to test them out to know if you like them. You know because you know yourself and your desires. You have done the research on each activity and compared it to what you want out of a scene or relationship and you can fairly accurately determine whether or not these activities are right for you before you ever try them.

Just because you are submissive does not mean you don’t have a voice. In the end it is you who decides how you will serve and what you are willing and not willing to do. Don’t let anybody force you to do something, because they won’t have to live with the regret, but you will. Take your time and be patient, learn from a safe distance, and discover a deeper sense of yourself before you enter into any type of activity.

Online BDSM slave training can be a safer way to learn about BDSM, submission and your own desires. The reason being is because you can view everything from distance giving you the time to soak in everything that you learn. Online training can include:


Specific Lessons – teaching you how to be a better slave for you. you will learn how training might look when you’re with you a partner. You might find out what future bdsm slave training consists of and how you can perform in the best way possible for your future Dom/me.


Tips – you can gain tips from experienced Dominants and submissives to help you better handle anything from managing painful sessions to dealing with sub drop after an intense session to avoiding potentially fake/dangerous Dominants. You can also have access other slaves, showing the potential of your submission and giving you a glimpse into what is truly possible.


Instructions – you can also learn about the proper slave commands and positions. While your Dominant might use different instructions, having a starting point can help you understand what may be expected of you.

The privacy that comes with online submissive training is also a benefit, as you don’t have to share what you are learning with anyone.

So take the time you need to learn how to be a slave before you ever hand that job over to someone else. The more time you spend with yourself the better you will be prepared when the time to serve actually comes. In doing so, you will show your future Dominant just how much you care about their approval and being the best slave you can for them, which will please them all the more.

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Take a look at the strict,no nonsense Online Mistress above. 

She is the hardest,mos severe Mistress you will ever have the priviledge of serving. Submitting to a femdom webcam session with this powerful woman is not for wannabes. 

She is a natural dominant and commands complete and total respect and obedience at all times. What ever she commands in a femdom webcam session,she expects to have done. If she wants another elastic band on your pathetic cock,you better do it. if she tells you to put more tobasco sauce on your nipples,put more on. And if she screams “dance” at you when your wearing your little pink frilly panties,well you better dance good.

This is one of the strictest Mistresses online and if your only playing at being a sub and your really only wanting to test how far you can push her then you should just move on. 

She does not tolerate time wasters. There are many wannabe mistresses online who say they give femdom webcam session but do not have any idea what they are doing. But she is clearly an expert and knows how to bring weak,pathetic guys like you to their knees and to her heel with a simple sneer or click of her fingers. 

If you are a submissive male in need of some firm,female dominance then log on and see her. But remain respectful and humble at all times.

A femdom webcam session with her is a mind blowing experience and you do not want to miss out.

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Turn-Ons: s/m bondage, discipline, cum control, trampling, financial domination, humantoys, body worship, blackmail, role play,feminization, sissification, corporal punishment cbt and others


Turn-Offs: My dislikes are cheap losers! I expect the best and the best I shall have! You don't even know the half of how spoiled this Queen is! You will see!

Do NOT dare to call me "bb", you little paypiggy, UNDERSTOOD ?!



I want to bring u down to ur knees and make u understand the power of a beautiful intelligent sophisticated woman.

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