BDSM/OnLine Mistress/submissive relationship

There is no "norm" for BDSM relationships, just as there is no norm for relationships in the vanilla world. Basically, your relationship is what you want it to be, and what you make it. There are many, many different possibilities, and part of the excitement of it all is exploring just what is possible. I know of many people who are married, to a spouse who participates in the lifestyle or who does not, and yet also has an on-line relationship. It's also not uncommon for the off-line partner to know of the on-line relationship, and to approve and contribute. As long as everyone is being honest with everyone else, and no one's getting hurt, then anything goes.




There are many people in M/s relationships who don't enjoy or participate in S/m activities. Not all submissives and slaves are masochists. Some -- for instance, some Goreans -- don't like to say that they are part of the BDSM community, because they consider what they do more of an overall whole-life philosophy, rather than a shared recreational activity. But, to my mind, what you call what you do isn't as important as the fact that everyone involved is happy and safe. Oh, and not everyone in our lifestyle wants or needs a sexual relationship. There are many online Dominants out there for you to choose.

Something as basic as brushing your teeth can be considered a BDSM activity, if you do it at the times and in the manner specified by the Mistress/ Master. Or if you do it while wearing a vibrating butt plug. If you're looking for play activities, visit the Deviant's Dictionary, or some other list of things other people do, and see if you can devise a way to carry those over into the on-line spectrum.

And if you know what you want and just want to play kinky online, register free to this site.

Have fun !

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