Real Life play is wonderful. It's exhilarating, it's fun and it can be intensely erotic. And some people are lucky enough to be able to play whenever they want. Usually though, there are limitations - time, distance, other obligations - which mean we can't just whip up a scene whenever we feel like it. It's a big, wide world out there, and sometimes its hundreds - or even thousands - of miles that separate us from our play partner. However, RL isn't the only way to explore and experience BDSM.It is often said, that our most developed sexual organ is our brain - and that's were cyber-BDSM comes in. Of course, everyone's heard of cybersex. There are a plethora of online chat rooms where you can go to have one-night cyber-stands, and talk to people you don't know in third person all pretending you're getting down to hot and kinky sex - this article isn't about them. Rather, I want to look at how technology can work in and enhance a BDSM relationship.
One of the most difficult things about cyber play is that the only toy you have is your imagination. It's also one of the most exciting. This can be that grey area where fantasy and reality meet, where you can try out new things safe in the knowledge that the worst thing that will happen is the connection dropping. It can give you the confidence to explore that thing you've been thinking about for a while, but are too embarrassed / nervous / unsure whether you'll like it to bring it up face to face.
For the idle amongst you, cyber has the advantage of taking very little physical effort. No squeezing oneself into a 22" corset, or ending up with a pulled muscle from too much flogging.
You don't have to spend two hours getting ready to indulge in an online scene, and there's no worry of getting pulled over by the police whilst you’re driving to the venue dressed in a rubber cat suit with a bag full of floggers. Cyber is fun, safe and sexy. And you can enjoy it from the comfort of your computer chair.
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