Thursday, November 8, 2012

How To Make Your Slave Feel Owned

One of the main factors, in feeling truly Owned is to be constantly reminded throughout the day of a Master's control. These reminders can be subtle or really obtrusive. The more often a slave is reminded of his or her submission, the deeper it becomes -- and the more fulfilling. So here are some ideas you might want to try, and no matter what rules you decide to make your own, please be consistent. If you are unwilling to take the time to enforce the rules you make, then there may as well be no rules at all. 
There is nothing in the world that will make a slave feel less loved than to have a Master who ignores his or her transgressions and does not exert their dominance. Please note that I use male references here simply because I am a female dominant.

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  1. Have him wear slave bells. The constant soft jingling of the bells is soothing and a certain reminder of his submission.
  2. When he has broken a rule, talk to him as you punish and make him speak in detail about why what he did was wrong.
  3. Make him take him shoes off every day as soon as he enters your house.
  4. A beautiful, special collar will make any slave joyous. Take the time to select the right one, and have him wear it as often as possible.
  5. Have him call you each day at a specified time, no excuses.
  6. Give him anklets and tell him he must wear one of them every day, no excuses.
  7. Whenever possible, have him kneel before you and ask to accompany you upon the furniture.
  8. Choose his hairstyle and go with him to get it cut to your specifications.
  9. Whenever possible, have him display himself whenever you come into the room -- legs spread, shirt unbuttoned. No matter what position you take, he is to be sure your view is unobstructed
  10. When around the kids or vanilla friends/family, make sure he has an alternative title for you besides Master (Mistress, for you ladies who prefer that title) such as "my love" etc.
  11. Use him sexually in a rough, selfish way when you feel like it, interrupting whatever he was doing.
  12. Choose a food that he dislikes and have him eat a small portion every day for a week.
  13. Have him crawl to bed each night.
  14. Bring him a stuffed animal each time you go out of town.
  15. Choose his clothing each day.
  16. Have him get your daily wardrobe ready for you the night before.
  17. After punishment, have him kiss your boots and thank you for loving him enough to correct him.
  18. Have him bring a warm towel and wash and massage Your feet each day after work.
  19. Get him tattooed (Your choice of art and location).
  20. Get him pierced (or preferably if You are trained, do it Yourself).
  21. Get him branded.
  22. Respect, but push his limits.
  23. Ask him each night what he did that day that You would not have approved of. This gets him in the habit of being completely honest, and also makes him conscious of the things he could do better each day.
  24. Teach him exactly how You want him to kneel, and demand perfection.
  25. Reward him by allowing him to please You sexually.
  26. Supervise his workout routine.
  27. Each night he is to kneel next to the bed asking permission to sleep with his Master, and each night he does, he is to kneel by the bed in the morning and thank his Master for the privilege.
  28. Have him polish Your boots weekly, on his knees at Your feet.
  29. Negotiate until you are both comfortable with the terms and then sign a contract.
  30. Giver him a writing assignment: "The definition of Pain - 1000 words"
  31. Have him keep a diary of his journey into submission.
  32. Instruct him that he may never get himself something to eat or drink in Your presence without first asking You if You want something.
  33. Some evenings, keep him on a leash and take him with You no matter what You do....even if You do not speak to him or include him in Your activities.
  34. When appropriate, he is to speak when spoken to.
  35. Reward him by giving him delicious pleasure.
  36. On occasion, share him.
  37. When it suits You, instruct himr not to make eye contact with You without Your command.
  38. Have him keep his body clean shaven at all times.
  39. Conduct random inspections of his body to make sure he keeps himself to Your specifications.
  40. Make him wear a butt-plug under his clothes whenever he goes out alone.
  41. For transgressions: have him write Your name on the bottom of his foot and tell him to remember he is walking on You with each step. (This is harder to do that You might think.)
  42. Master the art of the meaningful piercing stare.
  43. Give him reading assignments.
  44. Test him on the reading assignments, to make sure he learned the appropriate lessons from each.
  45. Instruct him to keep his toenails painted perfectly everyday, and check to see that they are before bed
  46. Make it his responsibility to put the toys away after play and punishment, and to keep them clean and neat.
  47. Reward him by letting him name his favorite scene, toys, etc.
  48. Call him your slut, your pet, etc.
  49. Have him make a list of the 10 things that make him the most self-conscious, uncomfortable or embarrassed.
  50. Work with him, having him do the things on the list, so that he conquers those fears and hesitations.
  51. Sometimes, pamper him -- wash his body and hair, having him remain perfectly still as you turn him and move him about.
  52. Hand feed him like a small child on occasion.
  53. Have him eat from a dog bowl on occasion.
  54. For transgressions: make him wear a sign to the next public function naming his crime.
  55. Praise his dedication when he has pleased you well.
  56. Instruct him that he is never to touch your body without permission.
  57. Have him write a meditation about his submission, devotion and trust in you, to be said aloud each night before falling asleep.
  58. Some days allow him no clothing whatsoever.
  59. For transgressions: deny him play.
  60. In the same ilk, For transgressions: deny his orgasm. Give him sex, but he can't cum.
  61. For transgressions: Command that he is to be silent for a week. He may not speak, and will take whatever pain or pleasure you give as silently as possible.
  62. Treat him like a pet in front of friends, making him present himself, turn himself, etc.
  63. Giver him a writing assignment: "The definition of Obedience - 1000 words"
  64. Have him wear a cock ring.
  65. Tell him one morning that he must cum for you 15 times that day, and then write about the day.
  66. Have him wear a butt plug under his clothing out to dinner.
  67. On your birthday, let him receive your spankings.
  68. Spend time training him how to move to please You.
  69. For transgressions: stand him in the corner like a 3 year old.
  70. Always flog him after completion of a task, even if it was satisfactory. A well flogged slave is a happy slave.
  71. Speak about him as if he were not present.
  72. For transgressions: deny him any D/s at all for a week, letting him do just as he pleases, not allowing him to serve you in any way, no punishment, no instruction, no play, banning titles of respect, etc. This will shame him and certainly make him strive to please you when it is over and he is in his place again.
  73. Defend his honor to those who would disrespect your prized possession.
  74. Pet him often.
  75. Make him be webmaster for your site
  76. Whenever possible, have him sleep in a cage.
  77. Buy him sexy or slutty clothes to your liking.
  78. Teach him things, expand his knowledge, in a patient motherly way.
  79. When you are apart, call him and have him masturbate for you.
  80. If you choose to play with others, make sure your slave knows who is first in your heart and that some things are just for him.
  81. Lead him with a loving fist in his hair.
  82. Wake him each morning with an assigned task for the day and make sure it is done by day's end.
  83. Teach him patience.
  84. Videotape your sessions and watch them together.
  85. Have him place his regular wear shoes in a line by the front door. They should be in a straight line with the laces tucked inside. Inspect them periodically.
  86. Keep a list of his transgressions in a little book. Let him slip for a while thinking you are not noticing. Then one day, bring out the book and have a day of atonement.
  87. Tickle him just because you can.
  88. Have him be perfectly still and quiet while you bring him extreme pleasure. When he moves or makes a sound punish him then return to the pleasure.
  89. Keep him locked in his collar when you are home. Wear the key to the lock around your neck.
  90. When possible, have him cook and serve your dinner wearing nothing but a collar.
  91. Buy him a Polaroid camera and give him assignments to take pictures of himself for you in certain outfits or positions, etc.
  92. Don't be afraid to bring him to tears, for they are yours as well.
  93. Take him and the dog to the park, both on leashes.
  94. Have him fall asleep between your legs, licking your vagina, and tell him you expect him to be there when you awake.
  95. Occasionally, fulfill his fantasy.
  96. Master's word is the last word.
  97. Be consistent.
  98. Take the time to talk to him, learn his fears, his dreams and fantasies. Use your knowledge.
  99. Specify exactly how he will address you in private and in public.
  100. If you are willing to correct him each time he forgets until it is a habit, have him refer to himself as "this slave" or "this boy" etc.

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