Saturday, November 24, 2012

Humiliation and Slave Training

Humiliation is a favored way to begin to create the idea of control in a Master and slave relationship, but that doesn't mean it doesn't have its own specific ways to work well - and to not work well for a relationship. 
By learning the techniques of humiliation as well as when to use it, you can use this as an effective slave training tool. 

The trick with humiliation is that many Masters will jump right into using this as a way to train their slaves - without any regard to whether or not this will work for their training purposes. In the initial discussions about slave training, the slave should have told the Master that this is something they enjoy or it's something that can be used to help mold their behaviors as the training continues. When this is not discussed and simply just used at the Master's whim, many problems can occur. If the slave has had any background of true abuse and humiliation (instead of this "play" usage), they can often become emotionally scarred by its use. 
When you simply start humiliating the slave and they don't want this in your relationship, it can cause them to not trust you to keep them safe as well as to become intimidated by you. They might revert to the slave behaviors that you want, but you may also be crumbling them as a person outside of the relationship. 

Humiliation can take many forms in a slave training situation. It can be public displays of humiliation or it can be done in private. Public displays of humiliation can be as subtle as having to address the Master as 'Master' in public settings in front of friends or as dramatic as having the slave masturbate in a public place.
 Private forms of humiliation can be as varied as puppy training or something that involves golden showers. But humiliation can also be done verbally by chastising the slave when they do something wrong, creating the sense in the slave that they have disappointed the Master in their actions. It can also include harsh words that can cause the slave to feel badly about themselves or certain parts of themselves.
 For example, by calling someone 'slut' or 'whore,' the slave can feel like they are lower than the Master, which can help them feel more controlled and willing to be obedient. Humiliation is often used as a form of punishment or during punishment to show the slave just how disappointed the Master might be in their actions. 
When used in conjunction with punishments like whippings and bondage, it can cause the submissive to not only feel physically controlled, but also emotionally controlled. This is a highly effective way to reshape the way that slave is acting or thinking about a certain situation. What you may not realize is that humiliation isn't meant to hurt your slave, but rather to cause them to realize that they are your slave and someone that you wish to control in every way possible. When you are incorporating humiliation in your BDSM relationship, you do need to be careful to not hit any sore spots for the slave that might irrevocably damage them. This is something that should be discussed in the initial agreement as to what a scene or relationship will include. 

That said, humiliation is something that many slaves enjoy in a slave training situation because it adds to the overall control and power struggle between them and their Master. It allows them to feel more objectified as a slave and more of a 'thing' in the relationship.

You may also want to read
For sluts, slaves, and before you try to write me!
Training for BDSM slaves
Master/slave in a BDSM relationship
The myth of male weakness

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